What do men want? I think Aretha Franklin sang it best in 1967: RESPECT. Most men want to be held in high esteem and be seen by their women as their heroes, even when they makes mistakes. They may have different emotional and sexual expectations, and at the end of the day–those men desire to be respected for who they are, not for what have you done for them lately? Here are a few ways you can respect your husband in marriage.
1. Stop the insults in an attempt to motivate him to change
Women may think their harsh criticisms will fix their husbands and make them better. Nope! It wouldn’t even fix you own flaws if it was vice versa. What you are doing is actually causing rejections that will lead to anger, which will then lead to bitter resentment toward you.
2. Respect him by growing as a whole person
What can be more attractive to man than a happy and joyful disposition in a woman? It’s contagious, and it empowers men. To get to that happy place also means releasing shame, depression, anger, sadness, and fear along the way. But you’ve arrived, and you are now deserving of a mature, emotionally-healthy man so that both of you may have life, and have it abundantly.
3. Be attractive for him
Taking care of oneself physically is important to husbands, but the attraction I speak of that a mature man desires goes beyond the physical and into the emotional. When he connects with her at her best, sparks fly. That means a woman’s love of self, her passion for life, and how she carries herself will transcend his love for you. As you embody your attractiveness, he will reflect that same passion. A woman who wants a mature man will invest in living life to its fullest.
4. Appreciate all parts of your man, not just the parts that connect to you emotionally
Make him feel as humanly perfect as possible. If you appreciate his muscles, athleticism, how he takes care of the bills, mows your beautiful lawn with accurate precision, or fixes things around the house without you asking, tell him how much you appreciate it all, and often. What may happen next is he’ll start to open up the relational parts that have been lacking.
5. Respect him by offering yourself for physical affection (yes, sex)
When wives willingly and passionately make love to their men, and initiate the act occasionally, this speaks loudly that you respect his need for physical affection, served up his way.
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6. Respect him by letting him be a man
If a woman allows her Joe to be Joe without mothering him, and lets him “be” who he was designed to be without the need to fix him, he would come out of his cave more often, hand you his heart, and engage you emotionally, without losing his masculinity.